{"id":365,"date":"2013-06-13T18:12:53","date_gmt":"2013-06-13T18:12:53","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/thebadassbreastfeeder.com\/?p=365"},"modified":"2015-03-16T17:13:40","modified_gmt":"2015-03-16T17:13:40","slug":"gentle-parenting-is-not-anti-spanking","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/thebadassbreastfeeder.com\/?p=365","title":{"rendered":"Gentle Parenting is Not Anti-Spanking"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><a href=\"https:\/\/thebadassbreastfeeder.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/06\/1001461_10151723743156081_2032435619_n.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-366 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/thebadassbreastfeeder.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/06\/1001461_10151723743156081_2032435619_n.jpg\" alt=\"Abby Theuring, The Badass Breastfeeder, babywearing son Jack. \" width=\"720\" height=\"960\" srcset=\"https:\/\/thebadassbreastfeeder.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/06\/1001461_10151723743156081_2032435619_n.jpg 720w, https:\/\/thebadassbreastfeeder.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/06\/1001461_10151723743156081_2032435619_n-300x400.jpg 300w, https:\/\/thebadassbreastfeeder.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/06\/1001461_10151723743156081_2032435619_n-225x300.jpg 225w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 720px) 100vw, 720px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>Gentle parenting is PRO-gentle discipline.<\/p>\n<p>Gentle parenting is not about what we don\u2019t do. It\u2019s about what we DO.<\/p>\n<p>I recently overheard someone telling another person about gentle parenting. She said \u201cwe don\u2019t spank, we don\u2019t do leave our babies to cry.&#8221; I hear too much about what we don\u2019t do as gentle parents. To me this misses the point entirely.<!--more--><\/p>\n<p>Gentle Parenting\/attachment parenting\/natural parenting\/instinctual parenting\u2014whatever you want to call it or however you relate to it\u2014has gotten a very bad rap. We are seen as parents with a bunch of rules about what not to do. Anti-spanking, anti-Cry It Out, etc. This is actually not the case at all.<\/p>\n<p>I am against all these things, very much, but it is not the foundation of my parenting philosophy. I do not parent my son based on a bunch of things I don\u2019t want to do.<\/p>\n<p>Gentle parenting promotes focusing on the relationship, the attachment, the bond starting from birth and continuing throughout a child\u2019s life. It encourages building a genuine and respectful connection with our children. It encourages parents to connect to their instincts and respond to their babies. When a parent follows his\/her instincts, spanking, Cry It Out and other detached parenting practices become obsolete. We don\u2019t need them.<\/p>\n<p>Gentle parenting is not reactionary. It is how parenting was intended to function since the beginning of time. Gentle parenting was not created in response to detached parenting and therefore does not base itself in the difference.<\/p>\n<p>Detached parenting is new. It is the fad, the trend, the reaction.<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s run its course. We know now it doesn\u2019t work to build emotionally healthy and stable adults. It\u2019s time for it to end and for us connect to our instincts.<\/p>\n<p>Abby Theuring, MSW<br \/>\n<script><\/script><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Gentle parenting is PRO-gentle discipline. Gentle parenting is not about what we don\u2019t do. It\u2019s about what we DO. I recently overheard someone telling another person about gentle parenting. She said \u201cwe don\u2019t spank, we don\u2019t do leave our babies to cry.&#8221; I hear too much about what we don\u2019t do as gentle parents. 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