{"id":4565,"date":"2017-06-09T22:36:29","date_gmt":"2017-06-09T22:36:29","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/thebadassbreastfeeder.com\/?p=4565"},"modified":"2017-06-09T22:36:29","modified_gmt":"2017-06-09T22:36:29","slug":"self-care-not-negotiable","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/thebadassbreastfeeder.com\/?p=4565","title":{"rendered":"Self Care is Not Negotiable"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-large wp-image-4566\" src=\"https:\/\/thebadassbreastfeeder.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/06\/sdjgkvm-1024x768.jpg\" alt=\"Abby Theuring, The Badass Breastfeeder, running for self care.\" width=\"740\" height=\"555\" srcset=\"https:\/\/thebadassbreastfeeder.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/06\/sdjgkvm-1024x768.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/thebadassbreastfeeder.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/06\/sdjgkvm-300x225.jpg 300w, https:\/\/thebadassbreastfeeder.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/06\/sdjgkvm-768x576.jpg 768w, https:\/\/thebadassbreastfeeder.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/06\/sdjgkvm.jpg 1027w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 740px) 100vw, 740px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Do you create structure in your day to make sure you are meeting your own needs? It took my ages to figure this out for myself. But when I did I felt like I got ground under my feet again. It&#8217;s far from perfect and it doesn&#8217;t change the stress of parenthood, but I overall do not feel like I am free falling through life anymore.<!--more--><\/p>\n<p>Running is my jam. I bought an expensive jogging stroller 2 years ag<span class=\"text_exposed_show\">o and we still justify this purchase as an investment into our mental health. It has really changed it all for me. I run everyday that the weather lets me. It&#8217;s hard in winter in Chicago, but running season is upon us. I have reviewed our &#8220;rules&#8221; to make sure that the jog goes smoothly (because at first the chaos just transitioned into the jog before I created structure within the structure.)<\/p>\n<p>They can bring snacks, but they have to hold them the entire time. I cannot provide long winded answers about the universe while running. Ask me a question and I will answer it when I am done. They need to use their own problem solving skills during the run because I cannot referee and they need to focus on getting along. And this last one is a great practice for me as well to try to let them work their own things out!<\/p>\n<p>This is my thing that is mine, time that is mine. We have a list of family agreements and &#8220;mommy runs&#8221; was added to it last year. It&#8217;s not negotiable. When there is complaining I explain that each family member has to take care of themselves and this is how I take care of myself. It has become routine because I made it part of our routine. It was not going to fall into my lap. As much as I need this for myself I hope that they can learn about taking care of themselves and learn to give loved ones the space they need to care for themselves.<\/span><br \/>\n<script><\/script><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Do you create structure in your day to make sure you are meeting your own needs? 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