{"id":716,"date":"2013-11-04T17:45:38","date_gmt":"2013-11-04T17:45:38","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/thebadassbreastfeeder.com\/?p=716"},"modified":"2015-04-07T21:32:37","modified_gmt":"2015-04-07T21:32:37","slug":"listen-to-your-heart-by-guest-blogger-purple-momma","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/thebadassbreastfeeder.com\/?p=716","title":{"rendered":"Listen to Your Heart"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>By Eve Burns<\/p>\n<p>Buddy (my 18 month old) woke up at 2 am the other night, which is unusual since he usually sleeps all night. (I almost said he&#8217;s been sleeping through the night, but did you know that the medical definition of sleeping through the night is five hours? I know, right?) He was doing that really mournful stop-and-start cry. So I waited about two minutes to see if he&#8217;d just go right back to sleep. No dice. So I went to him, gave him some boob and he went peacefully back to sleep.<\/p>\n<p><em>He went peacefully back to sleep. <\/em><\/p>\n<p>I could have just let him cry and he&#8217;d eventually drift off. No, not drift off. He&#8217;d cry and cry until he gave up and fell asleep. <!--more-->He&#8217;d just give up. His little brain would send the signal that no one was coming for him, and it would be part of the self-esteem equation that begins at birth.<\/p>\n<p>I still feel guilty about the times I let Bunny cry it out when she was younger. Hell, I feel guilty about a lot with Bunny. I ignored my instinct too often. I knew what felt right, but I did something else for a lot of reasons that I&#8217;ll eventually write about. Some things just felt wrong to me, and I did them anyway.<\/p>\n<p><strong>We all know when it feels wrong.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>I find myself looking for validation online too often. I need to stop finding people who agree with me and just make sure that <strong><em>I<\/em><\/strong> agree with me. I&#8217;m putting the books down (this is still difficult sometimes, since I&#8217;m a born researcher) and just listening to my instinct. I&#8217;m trusting the bond that exists between me and my kids, even if I&#8217;m not feeling particularly bonded that day. To quote <a href=\"http:\/\/m.youtube.com\/watch?v=yCC_b5WHLX0&amp;desktop_uri=%2Fwatch%3Fv%3DyCC_b5WHLX0\">Roxette<\/a>, listen to your heart. <del><\/del> (Yep, that song is now stuck in my head, too.)<\/p>\n<p>There&#8217;s a reason that I have that tug on my heart when Buddy cries. It&#8217;s telling me to go to my child because he&#8217;s distressed or uncomfortable <em>and he needs my help.<\/em><\/p>\n<p>So why wouldn&#8217;t I go to him? If I heard my husband crying in the middle of the night, I wouldn&#8217;t just ignore it and wait for him to stop and fall asleep. I&#8217;d try to comfort and soothe him. Wouldn&#8217;t you do the same? I hope your answer is yes. If not, I believe you need more hugs to make up for a past hug deficit. But that&#8217;s another post.<\/p>\n<p>Love and purple to you all.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/thebadassbreastfeeder.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/11\/577459_172771289591126_1966290732_n.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-thumbnail wp-image-777\" src=\"https:\/\/thebadassbreastfeeder.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/11\/577459_172771289591126_1966290732_n-150x150.jpg\" alt=\"577459_172771289591126_1966290732_n\" width=\"150\" height=\"150\" srcset=\"https:\/\/thebadassbreastfeeder.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/11\/577459_172771289591126_1966290732_n-150x150.jpg 150w, https:\/\/thebadassbreastfeeder.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/11\/577459_172771289591126_1966290732_n-100x100.jpg 100w, https:\/\/thebadassbreastfeeder.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/11\/577459_172771289591126_1966290732_n-300x300.jpg 300w, https:\/\/thebadassbreastfeeder.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/11\/577459_172771289591126_1966290732_n.jpg 960w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 150px) 100vw, 150px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>You can follow Purple Mama at:<\/p>\n<div>Website:\u00a0<a href=\"http:\/\/www.purplemama.net\/\" target=\"_blank\">www.purplemama.net<\/a><\/div>\n<div>Facebook:\u00a0<a href=\"http:\/\/www.facebook.com\/purpleprison\" target=\"_blank\">www.facebook.com\/purpleprison<\/a><\/div>\n<div>Twitter: PurpleMamaFB<\/div>\n<p><script><\/script><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>By Eve Burns Buddy (my 18 month old) woke up at 2 am the other night, which is unusual since he usually sleeps all night. (I almost said he&#8217;s been sleeping through the night, but did you know that the medical definition of sleeping through the night is five hours? I know, right?) 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